I am currently one quaking, unhappy ball of stress. The moving, the Africa, the fact that my job has been boring me to tears and making me feel useless of late.. it’s all too much. However, the most troublesome thing to me right now is money. I have none. None. Negative, even. Moving sucks up cash; I need to cover the moving-in costs, security deposit, cat deposit, etc, long before I’ll get my previous security deposit back. Africa’s costing me an awful lot for an all-expense paid trip on mom. I’m really tired of making car payment, that’s for damn sure. And I don’t even want to discuss what I am paying (although will be repaid) for the class I’m in right now wherein the ONLY thing the instructor has contributed thus far is a required book and a reading schedule on the syllabus.
Today I sucked it up and e-mailed my mom asking for a small loan, about the same amount as my car payment. She just called me back and said she’ll put a check in the mail for 50$ more than I asked for tomorrow.
I’m sitting at my desk in tears this Friday afternoon. I don’t want to be the 25-year-old girl borrowing money from my mom. But I am. And I hate it.
I also hate the fact that it’s money that is stressing me out more than anything else. I’ve never been concerned about money, nor very good at budgeting it. But my attitude used to be much more when I had money, great, when I didn’t, bummer. Now somehow it all seems more overwhelming, and I don’t know if that’s a factor of increased responsibilities or a decreased ability to be ok with being irresponsible.
I have a friend visiting from out of town this weekend. At least now I don’t have to worry as much about the overwhelming cost of a little Thai food and a couple vodka tonics…
I always hated the saying “Money can’t buy you happiness” - a big WHATEVER to that! It sure can buy you a lot less stress and a feeling of security.
Don’t feel guilty about asking your parents for money. One day they will be asking you to help take care of them and they won’t feel so guilty knowing that they once gave you money.
i’ve been there, financially, and not so long ago, although it has been since I was 26 that I’ve had to borrow money from my parents - and for the same kinda timing - I was moving and didn’t have enough to cover new security deposit, but wasn’t getting old security deposit back (in fact, as a funny aside, I never did get old security deposit back due to very humourous situation with my roommate who didn’t pay some rent and then disappeared).
no sage advice - just empathy. and 25 is not too old to be borrowing from your parents. at least you’re not living at home with them (like my 26 year old sister who will finally be moving out in december).
the blind assassin was awesome, btw. I loved it was a passion.