After college I lived with my best friend for two years. Last September she left me like the hussy she is and went to grad school in Chicago. I assume we’re still pretty damn good friends because we converse over e-mail pretty much all day just like we’ll be meeting up for cheese and wine and Just Shoot Me! reruns at the end of the night. (Also, because we both enjoyed Just Shoot Me! I must assume we share a special bond with each other.)
Today she asked me for advice on a nice boy who seems to be having a problem asking her out again. He’s communicating plenty and often, but not making plans.
My first suggestion:
Do you have any big plans for the weekend? You could e-mail him back and suggest something at a certain time like you don’t have loads of free, unscheduled time (or IF you don’t have loads of free, unscheduled time). I don’t think of that as playing hard to get, I think that’s more not looking like a loser. It’s something I’m working on myself… with mixed results.
If you’re interested in seeing him again, don’t not e-mail him just because he didn’t follow up on doing something this week. That’s all I feel strongly about.
She responded with the content of his e-mail. It was pretty pedestrian, conversational, not asking her out.
My instictual response:
Tell him you don’t have much planned this weekend if he wants to grab a drink or something.
Apparently I suck so hard at not being a loser that I can’t keep the facade up for a mere 30 minutes. At what point did someone think they should ask my advice? Hell, you’d be better off asking David Spade.
Hi, I just found your blog via Gazelles on Crack and I’m liking it… I love the fact that you have a category entitled “socially awkward”– fantastic. I also feel I suck at not being a loser.
Such is life, dearie.